Aussie's Post on a Common Shit Test
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The following post was written by Aussie, an IW.com forum member.
I had the classic "You know we're not going to have sex tonight right?"
I wasn't even planning on it so I responded with utter sincerety "I'm not after sex." and a sort of wtf look on my face wondering where the hell she pulled that dumbass question from.
Later that night she initiated the whole thing and we fucked.
Point here is this. If you already feel in control of the situation then you're going to be able to respond in a way that demonstrates that control. Essentially, by asking [here in the forums] what response you can say to such a shit test, you're only going to be faking it. I think a better way to handle these situations is to try and frame it such that you're the one in control. If you feel like you're in charge, then you'll respond as someone was in charge would.
Imagine you're hanging out with some close chick friends at a bar. You don't want any of these chicks and they always do what you say because you're the leader. If one of them said "Let's go here so we can meet some hot guys" then you'd probably say "Boring. Why the hell would I want to check out guys?" or "No way. The chicks here are pretty decent. I'm going to grab another beer. Who's up for a drink?" or "We're staying. You go and we'll catch up with you later."
You can respond as a beta with a few tricks up his sleave, or you can respond as an alpha. Either way, you might piss someone off but at least if you do it the alpha way the first time, it will seem congruent when you decide to stay behind as they go to check out blokes. Eg.
Bitch: Well we're going now. The guys here are all feral. You: Seeya.
And that's it. You don't want to check out guys so let them know you're not going to do it and stick with your guns if they leave. Following chicks is beta. If you're the guy in a group of girls then you're the leader. If they stray, tell them to stay in line and if they don't, just let them leave. Don't chase. Ever. Unless you're happy with taking a beta role in the situation which could be highly possible.
